Many of our flaws are old emotional defenses which may fade away when we're loved in spite of them.

Rick Cormier
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This is one of the most profound statements about love that I have ever heard. It echoes the "attachment" theory, which holds that love is a way to survive in a hostile world. We all have flaws, but most of us are too afraid of them to let anyone in close enough to discover them. People who are loved in spite of their flaws are experiencing the ultimate form of love. Their flaws are no longer a problem because they can rely on love to take care of them. They are being cared for by someone who genuinely loves them.

Source: Mixed Nuts Or What Ive Learned Practicing Psychotherapy

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